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Love can be one of the most beautiful and amazing parts of life, but it can also be frightening. While some apprehensiveness is normal, some find the thought of falling in love terrifying. Philophobia is the fear of love or of becoming emotionally connected with another person.

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Try out PMC Labs and tell us what you think. Learn More. People who experience love often experience break-ups as well. However, philosophers of love have paid little attention to the phenomenon. Here, I address that gap by looking at the grieving process which follows unchosen relationship terminations. I ask which one is the loss that, if it were to be recovered, would stop grief or make it unwarranted.

Is it the beloved, the reciprocation of love, the relationship, or all of it? By answering this question I not only provide with an insight on the nature of break-ups, but also make a specific claim about the nature of love. I argue that the object that is universally lost in all break-ups is a person with certain intrinsic qualities, who is in a relationship characterised by certain shared activities and recognized as romantic.

That means that, at least in romantic terminations, the beloved and the relationship are not independent objects of grief. So, plausibly, they may not independent objects of value in love. Hence, those who state otherwise within the property view and the relationship view should face up to this objection coming from the study of break-ups.

In her study of romantic love, Brogaard describes the phenomenology of romantic break-ups:. Indeed, many people are familiar with the emotional pain that sometimes follows a relationship termination. Break-ups can hurt for many different reasons. In this paper, I look into the nature of break-ups in order to find a loss which is grieved in all romantic terminations.

I start with a generic definition of love and a summary of the property view and the relationship view which I will scrutinise through the lens of break-ups. Then, I offer a taxonomy of terminations and give a brief on unchosen break-ups as grieving processes, before moving on to my main question. Specifically, I ask what would be the object that would have to return after an unchosen break-up in order to stop or unwarrant the grieving process. Firstly, I consider the object that is valued in love according to the property view: a particular person with certain intrinsic qualities.

Secondly, I consider reciprocity. Thirdly, I consider the relationship understood as shared activities performed out of concern, which is the object of value in the relationship view of love. Going through each potential loss, I show that the return of the person would not stop or unwarrant the grief if she does not return to a relationship where reciprocated love is expressed in certain activities, and which is romantic in virtue of certain expectations.

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That is the universal loss in all break-ups. In the last section, I argue that since the person and the relationship are not independent objects of grief, plausibly they are not independent objects of value either. That means that the property view and the relationship view of love should not stand in opposition to each other, at least not without facing up to this objection coming from the study of break-ups.

In order to ask specific questions about terminations, I shall start by giving a generic definition of love. Despite disagreement on the nature of love, there are two elements which a large of views take into : concern and value. Loving is a kind of valuing another person that involves or consists in concern for the beloved.

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That concern is 1 non-instrumental and 2 personal. I will not be discussing whether concern is a constituent of love, as portrayed in the love-as-valuing views cf. Kolodny or analogous to what love is, as depicted in the love-as-concern views cf. Frankfurt ; Soble Regarding non-instrumental concern, I will assume that loving someone non-instrumentally is compatible with the expectation of reciprocity. The need for reciprocity has led some philosophers to regard romantic love as an impure type of love Frankfurt ; Velleman If loving someone romantically is grounded or conditional on a desire for having that love reciprocated, the argument goes, that someone is not loved in a non-instrumental or disinterested way.

However, that argument does not take into the difference between romantic love and romantic relationship. Protasi explains that reciprocity is a necessary element of romantic relationships: if love is not reciprocated, it is impossible to enter a loving relationship as a romantic partner in the first place It would be possible to have a relationship without reciprocity, but it would not be a loving relationship.

These can exist without love, but are easily confused with loving relationships because people who love each other often engage in these practices. That is, love for the beloved does not disappear if it is not reciprocated.

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Then, reciprocity is necessary for romantic relationships, but not for romantic love. That explains how people can experience unrequited love. There are a few different interpretations of what it means for concern to be personal.

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Here I will deal with two positions within the love-as-valuing perspective: the property view and the relationship view. For example, that they are charming and loyal —as opposed to other qualities which are not intrinsic, like say that they eat a huge amount of pizza and they have blond hair. The property view and the relationship view are both aimed at finding the justification of love. That is, they are focused on finding the reasons which ground love. They are mutually exclusive: according to the property view, it is the intrinsic qualities of the beloved which grounds love. According the relationship view, it is the relationship with them which grounds love.

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The justification of love is not the focus of this paper. In other words, I will not ask what single element makes love, or break-ups, appropriate or rational. I will look at the nature of relationship terminations in order to find out if the beloved —understood as a person with certain intrinsic qualities— and the relationship —understood as shared activities— are two objects which are grieved in all break-ups.

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I will also ask whether they are grieved independently, as we would infer from their apparent mutual exclusivity as objects of value. Before I give more details on how I will proceed, I turn to my description of romantic terminations. A termination entails the end of a relationship. But relationships, as break-ups, appear to be very heterogeneous.

I categorise romantic terminations into the following two types:. When a relationship ends for a cause other than death, there are two possible ways of experiencing the termination:. The party does not want to end the relationship, but the other party makes that decision independently of her desire to continue the relationship. This type of break-ups can be experienced only by one member of the couple. The party wants to end the relationship.

This type of break-up can be experienced by one or both members of the couple at the same time, in two further distinct ways:.

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I will only focus on unchosen break-ups. The emotional pain which usually follows unchosen break-ups can be isolated in a way that is not possible in other types of terminations. Chosen break-ups can be painful, but describing the emotional pain in these cases would be impossible without dealing with the rationality of love, the rationality of desire and the rationality of emotional pain in themselves.

Since, as I have said, I am leaving rationality to a side, I will not discuss chosen break-ups. Finally, it may seem that whatever I say about unchosen break-ups may apply to deaths too. Deaths do too. But while death implies an irreversible loss of the beloved, it is not clear that break-ups do. I deal with the specific question of the loss of the beloved in section 3.

Instead of looking at terminations by assuming that they entail the loss of a person, I take a step back and ask whether they do entail that at all.

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All things considered, from now on I refer only to unchosen break-ups unless explicitly stated otherwise. My aim is to find out what is grieved in break-ups, so next I offer support to the claim that break-ups can be a source of emotional pain. When someone is in a relationship that she values with a person that she loves, the termination of the relationship entails the loss of many things that she values. Some of those things are valued instrumentally, that is, for the sake of something else.

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For example, the loss of financial security, the loss of someone who proof-read her philosophy papers or the loss of the only person who would accede to go to comic-cons dressed up as Chewbacca when she went as Han Solo. Some other losses have intrinsic value, that is, are valued by themselves beyond any utility they may have. When something of value is lost, that loss often triggers a characteristic response of emotional pain: grief. I will leave that concept of importance open and assume it can be subjectively justified. Two people can value an object equally say, for example, their shared car and the loss of it may trigger grief only for one of them if that car was important for her.

For Nussbaum, an episode of grief combines the judgement that an object of value has been lost with a wider network of values about the world one inhabits which is now changed by the loss Goldie describes grief from a different outlook.

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He argues that while emotions like fear might be episodic one has fear in the moment one is afraidgrief is an emotion which unfolds over time in the shape of a process. That means that someone is still immersed in the grieving process even when she is not experiencing emotional pain at every single moment of such process After a termination, a person may not feel grief, for example, when she is trying to pick a cereal brand in the supermarket.

But that does not mean she is not in a grieving process.

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It also seems that the episodes that make up this process are the kind of episodes described by Nussbaum: we not only evaluate the loss of our object of value as unfortunate, but it seems like everything that we look at is somehow affected by that loss.