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When it comes to datingthere's always been a double standard about age gaps. An older man who dates a much younger woman is often applauded, while an older woman who sets her sights on a younger man is typically met with side glances and referred to as a "cougar.
When you're a woman dating a younger man, you become obsessed with the stories of other women doing the same thing. Priyanka Chopra and Nick Jonas Getty. You clock the couples who didn't work out and you regularly check in on the ones who are still together. You take entirely speculative notes about what's working for the latter and what didn't for the former.
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You search for similarities between your May-December romances and use them as clues as to whether you're doomed:. Is their age gap the same? Do they also do that thing where you compare what each of you were doing in you, trying to make it in London; he, trying to make it through Year Eight science? It's all in an attempt to reassure yourself that you're not pathetic, as society would have you believe you are. There is, after all, safety in s. Men don't do this. Not that I've asked him, but I don't think year-old Leonardo DiCaprio is bothered about dating women under And look at Keanu Reeves 56being lauded right now for dating an "age-appropriate" woman, who is still nearly a decade younger than him.
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Alexandra Grant and Keanu Reeves Getty. Shortly after they went public inBritish tabloids branded Holmboe with the "toy boy" label so many times that Bonham Carter took umbrage with the term in an interview for Sunday Times Magazine. By sheer coincidence, Bonham Carter's relationship mirrors that of Princess Margaret, her character in season three of The Crown.
The season saw the breakdown of Margaret's marriage and her scandalous relationship with Roddy Llewellyna man 17 years younger. People are slightly afraid of older women … [they] can be very powerful.
Roddy Llewellyn and Princess Margaret Getty. But, I will say this: being the older woman in a relationship is the ultimate feminist power play.
You take what once belonged to the patriarchy that being the ability to date well outside your age bracketmake it the property of the girl gang and rejoice. Hold hands with your sisters around the fire at the sacrificial burning of the bras, or maybe just slide the age bracket down a bit on Bumble. Whatever—my point is, own it. I'm obsessed with age gaps.
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Whenever I express an interest in a man my age, my friends joke that he's too old for me. Twenty-one seems to be my. When I was 18, he was When I was 20, he was When I was 26, he was Now I'm 32—well, you can see where this is going. Someone who is 21 told me that to work out the absolute minimum age of a person you're allowed to date is to halve your own age and add seven.
This arbitrary math puts that particular year-old out of bounds for me, but should I care? That formula was made up in I'd rather divide that age gap in half and put both bits in the bin.
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Tilda Swinton and Sandro Kopp Getty. Celebrity women who date younger men are empowering, but we still have a problem. When you read the stories of non-celebrity women, a lot of them say they met their young stud when their lives were in flux or they weren't thinking clearly.
For New York Magazine 's offshoot The Cuta woman describes the day her future beau 10 years younger tapped her on the shoulder: "Reasons why my life was a mess kept coming at me I was 43 and a half, and I was panicking about my life as if I were stoned.
Emmanuel and Brigitte Macron Getty. The older woman is painted often by her own brush as a figure of desperation, so obsessed with her youth that she will cling to any well-cut figure she can find.
She's a cougar after all; she feeds on her prey. A younger man doesn't have to be an anti-ageing serum.
It's human nature to look to others to see if we're doing it right, this human thing, and so if everyone around you is dating "age appropriately", it can feel as if you're doing it wrong. We subconsciously assume that we'll end up with someone our own age, but the of years between birth dates doesn't have to be a big deal.
If the age difference between partners warrants so much psychoanalysing of yourself as the older woman, or judgement of another couple, there are probably bigger issues that need to be addressed. We don't hear about the older women who are secure and confident in their age-gap relationships because there's simply no need to talk about it. It would be like trying to determine whether a blonde and a brunette should be together.
So on that note, maybe I should stop being so obsessed with age gaps and see if that year-old is free tonight.